one of my fav pair of jeans is done

worn out in the inner thighs

so now do i make a skirt or  a bag with it?

Setting Boundaries & Saying No… Nicely

But the problem I frequently see with my time coaching clients is that their default response of, “Sure, I’ll get that to you by tomorrow,” leads to long-term negative consequences for themselves and others, such as:•    Handling small requests but putting off important projects

  • Turning in late or low-quality work
  • Doing other people’s work for them instead of properly delegating
  • Working extra hours so they can’t move forward on personal goals
  • Sacrificing sleep, exercise, and time with people they enjoy
  • Developing a reputation for being approachable but not reliable
  • Having people nag them about when they will get things done
  • Feeling overwhelmed, inadequate, guilty, frustrated, and resentful

Don’t misunderstand me: Doing your job well, having a willingness to serve, and acting like a team player are all awesome qualities. I’m not advocating slacking or never taking on extra assignments. But when you allow every request to divert your attention from your most important activities of the day, everyone ends up frustrated.

Fortunately, the solution to this huge challenge often involves a relatively small change in behavior: Thinking through and practicing how to say, “No,” or, “Not now,” nicely.

I was tagged by  @kindredsmile

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i think one thing that goes overlooked when girls and women take supplements for hair growth is that… if it says “promotes hair growth” it is not exclusivly talking about the hair on your head. when I looked up reviews on biotin and hairfinity on youtube besides other side effects (acne) girls were talking about an increase of hair growth in general. so granted it depends on the individual but still it only makes sense that hair growth would increase in every place that hair grows on your body…

ATL: The Untold Story of Atlanta’s Rise in the Rap Game

I am a COMPLETE sucker for hip hop/ rap docs. I never even realized until this documentary (currently on VH1) that Atlanta is so often disregarded. Every documentary specifically recaps the same East coast West coast stories but it is refreshing to learn and be reminded of other influences.

I think outside of animation history, the history of black artists (specifically visual artists and music artists) is my favorite

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Name: Monique

Nickname: Mo, Nique

Birthday: June 25

Gender: lady

Sexuality: Straight

Height: 5’2

Time Zone: Eastern

What time and date is it there:  Sept 1, 9:17pm

Average hours of sleep I get each night: 5-9

The last thing I Googled was: “default gateway is not available”

My most used phrase(s): “i feel”, “like”, “i mean”

First word that comes to mind: blank

What I last said to a family member: “they just need to stop” in reference to learning there is a part 3 to the LAHH ATL reunion

One place that makes me happy & why: my room. being near water, being by nature,

How many blankets I sleep under: one, its fleece

Favorite beverage(s): sorrell,  passion fruit juice, ginger ale

The last movie I watched in the cinema: throught he lens darkyl (today) but before that World War Z

Three things I can’t live without: minus basic human/ girl things… music, art, my own spaces

Something I plan on learning: hmmm… black art history (please recommend books and resources)

A piece of advice for all my followers: wow, im actually not sure where to start. i think the main thing i want to say is to find ways of practicing self love and self care daily!

You all have to listen to this song: oh hmmm idk, i have this playlist i just started that has some tracks im feelin so idk [here]

My blog(s): amazelife

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A few of you are OG followers and have been here since I had an internship at a studio three yeas ago, worked in retail two years ago, worked as an overnight concierge last year and now a movie theater usher and film feat intern (not that this will happen) BUT if I EVER lose sight of my humble beginnings ONLY you guys can give me a reality check ok?


Wait! At work tonight I told this one girl (she was in her late 20s) that she only had one ticket and not two for her bf and she basically said “we are not trying that girlfriend!” (Emphasis on the girlfriend)

And man I smiled it off but that was very sh*t white girls say to black girls

  • mom: Who was that sitting next to Jay Z and Blue at the awards? The babysitter?
  • me: Kelly Rowland?...

wasnt today that stop street harassment social media campaign?

where IF someone you “street harasses” you, you dont respond?

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there are quality young men in this city

i know they are out here


I really appreciate my guy friends.
They never dismiss me and make me feel like a “crazy chick” and they listen and give me honest advice, share their experiences and never play into the “friend zone” thing.

Kudos to them!

mom: maybe you should really watch what you post on fb and stuff, people might not want to work with an “activist”

me: ummm… i understand what you were saying but people werent hiring / referring me when i wasn’t being an activist these last few years

 it sucks to have these type of convos and discussions and i know and understand. 3 ppl have told me they are surprised at my “passion” in regards to recent events and i probably just threw myself into the “angry black woman protest pro black anti anyone who isnt black DOWN WITH THE MAN” category amongst my peers and my college professors but oh well… i can “clean up” my posts but they have been seen already… now everyone knows that im not just a nice face, with big hair, that draws cute things and likes cat videos (not that, that’s what they are gonna remember anyway)

seriously. if this is how we feel, i can’t even imagine what they’re going through.

exactly!!! im stressed but im here in the boonies of nyc. i can turn off my computer, the tv, the radio. walk outside and be removed from all this, take a break and gain of peace of mind but they cant… i really hope that mental health professionals are and have been making themselves available to help alleviate this